de⋅spair
- loss of hope; hopelessness
- someone or something that causes hopelessness
– verb
- to lose, to give up, to be without hope
- to give up the hope of
During this process I have considered the man I fell in love with, and decided to marry dead. I mean that. I think that, that man is gone forever. And that saddens me. There are times I look back on times, very good times, we had. I also realize they are glazed over happy moments. Memories tend to do that. Now, I loved him. I truly loved him. But he is gone. That person no longer exists on this planet. The man who is there now merely shares his name. That I suppose makes me sad.
What makes my heart ache, and makes me cry even as I type this is how stupid I was to think he was still there. Like how people see dead people they loved everywhere. I suppose it is part of the grief cycle. That denial.
The man I fell in love with would never do all the horrible things that this jerk has done. I just wonder where that man I loved went, when he left. In retrospect I should have seen that man, the one I loved, dying. I should have. Was I so selfish I could not even notice that he was slipping from me? Was I that stupid? Or even what makes me tear more… what if it was all an act from the start? People have done stranger things.
Did I fall in love with love? Did I fall in love with make believe?
Is it unrealistic to still dream for that ‘one’? That ‘love’? The one that knocks your socks off, heals your soul, and just makes you float? Or is it all a fairy tale? Are all men so easy to dispose of their emotions. That is what I wonder. That betrayal stings so deeply. So very deep, the kind that makes your body shake in crying. The one that makes your mind and thoughts split, makes your heart plummet to nausea.
He doesn’t care. That’s okay. He’s dead. Dead people don’t care about much I’m afraid. I suppose that is what hurts the most. He doesn’t care. He does not care. I cannot stop feeling loss and he DOES NOT CARE. I do not even love him, the man who is left over. I don’t. I love someone else now, someone who is far better yet… I still feel that betrayal, that pain, that anger, that tightness under my jaw when I think about the ex. That embarassment, anger, humiliation, guilt. I don’t think I feel that love from anyone anymore. But I cannot stop these other emotions. That fear.